My Journey to Becoming a Wholistic Sex & Relationship Coach

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When a somatic therapist asked me "What sensations do you feel?", it catapulted me into a journey of self-discovery and healing. I thought "what does this women want from me?" I was unable to connect to my body, as it felt foreign and uncomfortable. The absence of this connection was making me feel lost and alone. I needed to learn to stop distracting myself and to bring awareness to what I truly felt. I needed to come home to my body. Using my breath to support me, I screamed out frustrations and cried out my pain. 

Years of my life were spent living on autopilot. Drinking to have a good time, judging my worthiness by the men that would sleep with me, hating my body, and dreaming about the next thing.  As I relaxed into a healthy and loving relationship, I started to feel like something was missing. Sex became painful and I couldn't hold back my tears anymore. I questioned my sexual identity. What was happening? This was the man I loved, but something didn't feel right.  

I began to inquire, 

Why have I spent most of my life criticizing myself?

Why is it so hard for me to say no?

What do I want?

What is possible in the realm of pleasure?

I needed to get honest with myself and to feel all my emotions. Resentment needed to be expressed even when it hurt. I took inventory of my "wrongful doings", I forgave myself and I felt gratitude for the many lessons I had learned. Now I FEEL my worthiness. I honor my capacity to say no, therefore I can embody my yes. I understand and accept the judgmental voices inside of me, but they no longer drive me.

My passion is to help others connect to the wisdom in their bodies and to spread the importance of self love. To start thriving we need to become present.  The Taoist and Tantric philosophies have always known this. My practice is rooted in these ancient teachings and I am eager to share this knowledge with you.

 Much Love,

Tonya Don, VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coach 

                                Male Sexuality Coach

                                Tantric Sex Coach